The downfall of perfect communication

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The downfall of perfect communication

 

Main reason and concept

The pitfalls of perfect communication

Conclusion

 

Main reason and concept

Everywhere you look you will find articles and blogs on the reason for perfect communication. You will even find such blogs from us here at the pathfinder coaching academy. They are all true, communication is key but even when something seems to be perfect it can go wrong because it is unbalanced. In short perfect communication that can be deemed unbalanced when awareness is lacking. In this blog we are going to look at this unbalancing and what to be aware of to bring perfect communication back into balance, so it is effective to all who are involved.

 

The pitfalls of perfect communication

When it comes to perfect communicating, we should use the 2:1 ratio of communication. This stands for listen two times more then you speak. Basically, always allow the other person the platform to talk and express. But could you imagine if we all did that, it would be a very quiet place. But let’s face it when you have issue that you want to get off your chest you are going to do a lot of speaking and the other person a lot of listening.

There is also the other issue of people who may have been in relationships in their past where they were not allowed to talk and have an opinion. This is problematic to the perfect communication in their life that you (I) have now shown them and been able to highlight to them. It becomes difficult because the person gets use to speaking and having their say. This freedom can be addictive and the power they hear in their own voice can be in a lot of cases intoxicating. This feeling can get out of hand if the person is not aware of it.

The fact the person can now freely talk is not what is getting out of hand but the fact they are spending less time on listening and giving you (I) the platform to talk as well. This is the unbalancing, once you try and have your say it can bring up old feelings for the other person. These feelings might be very similar to the past relationships they had when they felt they could not talk. If you add in the fact they now have strength in their voice and like the platform of speaking where they may not have had it in the past, you trying to speak may not be welcomed very well.

So, lets us bring it back into balance. You must be aware that this platform is shared and believe it or not your opinion becomes stronger and more impactful the more you listen as it becomes educated with not only your thoughts and beliefs but the insight of where the other person is coming from. You have to be aware that you have taken up a lot of the floor with your speaking and the respect in the relationship will grow if you become aware of this and offer the time for the other person to speak.

This awareness has to happen in personal development and growing relationships because it is great that you have found your voice and it is amazing you have found someone who allows you the time to express your opinions through conversation. It is now unfair to not return the favour and be aware of what you now have because the person doing all the listening might start to feel like they cannot talk.

If you are the person who has found their voice that is amazing and I am so happy that you now have the freedom to speak out and openly with someone but just be aware by not allowing the other person to speak they can become now how you use to be a feel in your previous relationships.

If you are the person who has allowed the person to talk and you do more listening then speaking just remember your voice matters as well and there is nothing wrong with reminding the other person of this. Just stay calm and do not say it in a way that is argumentative, just one that is informative of how you feel and the reasons for your emotions.

If you both do this, you will have great two-way conversations that allow you both to grow. Fail to do this even perfect communication can break a relationship because of the above mentioned.

 

Conclusion

It is ok to give the person the space to talk and this will educate your response but remember you need your time to talk as well.

It is fantastic that you now have a platform to talk and express your opinion just remember it is also good to listen and return the opportunity to the people who gave you’re your chance to talk.

 

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