Conclusion to the blog
Hi everyone, I trust you are all having a good day. This blog is all about the very strong situation of ‘Compromise’. This is a word we all understand and have or will come across many times in our lives, but this word doesn’t have to be the beginning of a negative situation. Let us have a look at this in a little bit more depth.
We often have to compromise when someone tells us to or we are faced with a situation where we have to change things to make things fit. A lot of the time this is forced upon us and we compromise things in our life that we do not want to let go of or change. Let me give you an example, you have been living a fall life on your own, a life where you have no free time all your life is taken up with activities and time for you. You then meet someone; you find it ok to not attend one of your activities for the odd Saturday when you are dating. Then comes the big decision to start a relationship with this person, but wait you already have a schedule that is fall. How are you going have time for a relationship.
The worst thing to happen in this situation is for the other person to suggest in any way that you need to free up your time to spend more time in the relationship. The reason for this being a bad thing is because you will obviously love everything you do with your time including the relationship otherwise why would you have all that you do. This love that you have will make you have to drop something you love for something else and this can very easily lead to resentment especially towards the person or persons who forced this unwanted compromise onto you.
If you reflect on your own life and basically take an infantry of your life periodically this will help. If you do this, you will be aware of what you want to bring into your life and how it will fit. Let us say you do this, and you come to a point in your life that you want to start a relationship but you realise for it to work you need more time to give to that relationship for it to work. You will look at all you have in a different way. You will look at all you love in your life and will think to yourself ‘what do I choose of my own free will to give up to allow this something new into my life’.
Doing this in the way mentioned above will be critical for no resentment to take place towards other people. This resentment is no basis for a healthy relationship in fact if you resent people it will be very difficult to love them.
Compromise is something that we should do for ourselves under our own guidance and need. If you are happy with how things are in your life and a relationship pops up out of the blue or something like this that could fit nicely into your life you could then do this self-analysis at this point way before someone possibly makes you.
Doing it for yourself give you the control and you will always be able to come back to the fact that you made these decisions for you so how can you resent others for your changes.
So, compromise is an important part of development and moving forward in life and if do this for the right reasons it can be highly positive, but if you wait around for others to force you to compromise then it is a high risk that resentment will not be far behind and then ultimately unhappiness.
In summary please do compromise but when you feel you need to develop something new into your life not because someone has suggested that you need to. We can only be the best for someone when we have become the best for ourselves.